Writings
Writing is one way I discover what I think and feel. I sit down not knowing and let the sentences reveal what's been moving underneath, the thing I couldn't quite name until it was on the page. It's less a record of what I've already integrated than the integration itself.
What Moves In The Dark
For two springs, my dog Juniper has traded a bone back and forth with a coyote neither of us has ever seen up close. It's a small, wordless negotiation between a domesticated wolf and a wild one. But it's also where I found language for something harder to hold: the grief of a baby I haven't had, and the strange truth that no self, no longing, and no loss exists independently of everything else.
Attention, as a Practice
We are always in conversation with sensation—before thought, before story.
Meaning emerges where awareness meets these signals. What we practice noticing, we practice having. Delight, even small and ordinary, can widen attention, holding grief and steadiness together.
Patient, gentle attention is a practice. It teaches the nervous system—and ourselves—that the present moment is complex, and that we get to choose how we live inside it.
Emotional Safety in Relationships: Who Is Responsible?
A relational, nervous-system approach to trust, differentiation, and connection
Emotional Capacity: The Hidden Muscle of Lasting Love
The Key to Lasting Love and Deeper Connection